hellborndaughter

Anonymous asked:

Ok, so more the elimination of gender roles and hierarchy than a complete disregard for the classification of gender? Because I know for some people, their gender is very important to them, as is the gender of their potential love interest(s). Sorry if this is confusing.

gaydiationpoisoning answered:

No, sorry. Gender roles are gender.

I understand that some people’s gender identities are very important to them, and I respect the identities of individuals who ask me to use certain pronouns, but I think that the individualism of queer theory is not that useful.

I used to identify as agender, and my mind changed when I realized that it would be more subversive for me to allow myself to just be a dude who likes what I like and feels what I feel without relabeling myself for it. Gender abolitionism is class-minded; it is about what’s best for everyone (females in particular), and sometimes pursuing what’s best for everyone means realizing that what you want for yourself is not that revolutionary, and examining why you feel the way you do so that you can come to a better conclusion.

also, gender identity proceeds gender, the social construct that genders absolutely everything, from objects to personality traits, so people wouldnt develop special gender identities to cope with the limitations of a gendered world if gender were to be abolished

i have never ever watched porn, only out of curiosity and total disgust when I was younger, but never to get off - that was the furthest thing from my mind, and I never understood how someone could get off to it, which made me feel like there was something wrong with me. to the point that i wondered if i was asexual for a while. im still not really sure. my sexual fantasies have always been so ‘innocent’, like the most I have thought of is like making out and heavy petting, even though I have done more than that irl. The actual sex act (speaking in mainstream male centric terms), piv, is the opposite of romantic and intimate, its violent and impersonal and idk if thats a problem i have, or a fundamentally natural reaction to it as a woman whose life is surrounded by sexual terrorism (rape culture, male violence), and/or also that I never developed a pornsick sexuality.

Anonymous asked:

Hey, could u recommend some good radfem or general feminism related books please :-)

radfem.org has a bunch of free books! my favorite author is sheila jeffreys. a good primer for radical feminism tho is the sexual liberals and the attack on feminism..it argues against all the bs liberal feminism has done to the movement

also unpacking queer politics by sheilla jeffreys
burntoutbrighter

There is no unmarked woman.

There is no woman’s hair style that can be called standard, that says nothing about her. The range of women’s hair styles is staggering, but a woman whose hair has no particular style is perceived as not caring about how she looks, which can disqualify her for many positions, and will subtly diminish her as a person in the eyes of some.

Women must choose between attractive shoes and comfortable shoes. When our group made an unexpected trek, the woman who wore flat, laced shoes arrived first. Last to arrive was the woman in spike heels, shoes in hand and a handful of men around her.

If a woman’s clothing is tight or revealing (in other words, sexy), it sends a message — an intended one of wanting to be attractive, but also a possibly unintended one of availability. If her clothes are not sexy, that too sends a message, lent meaning by the knowledge that they could have been. There are thousands of cosmetic products from which women can choose and myriad ways of applying them. Yet no makeup at all is anything but unmarked. Some men see it as a hostile refusal to please them.

Women can’t even fill out a form without telling stories about themselves. Most forms give four titles to choose from. “Mr.” carries no meaning other than that the respondent is male. But a woman who checks “Mrs.” or “Miss” communicates not only whether she has been married but also whether she has conservative tastes in forms of address — and probably other conservative values as well. Checking “Ms.” declines to let on about marriage (checking “Mr.” declines nothing since nothing was asked), but it also marks her as either liberated or rebellious, depending on the observer’s attitudes and assumptions.

landmerbabe
landmerbabe:

aljazeeraamerica:

Oscar Pistorius gets five years for culpable homicide of girlfriend
He could be released after 10 months in jail to serve the remainder of his sentence under house arrest, according to legal experts.
Read more. 
(Photo: Herman Verwey/AFP/Getty) 

murdered his girlfriend and gets 5 years.
we care very little about women.

landmerbabe:

aljazeeraamerica:

Oscar Pistorius gets five years for culpable homicide of girlfriend

He could be released after 10 months in jail to serve the remainder of his sentence under house arrest, according to legal experts.

Read more. 

(Photo: Herman Verwey/AFP/Getty) 

murdered his girlfriend and gets 5 years.

we care very little about women.